We have three simple rules at Caring Connection Children’s Center.
We ask all children to be
That’s Enlightened Discipline. That’s all.
What we have realized is that every behavior – in all people – that is undesirable will fall into one of these three categories. So, gone are the terms naughty, bad or mean, even right or wrong. We walk inside because it’s safe. We flush and wash after toileting because it’s clean. We help our friends because it’s kind.
But anchoring us, as the bedrock of Enlightened Discipline are the practices of Natural and Logical Consequences. Natural and Logical Consequences teach children to respect others, the environment, themselves and to be accountable for their own behavior. They teach children that even when an action has been unfavorable, they have the power to make amends to correct this action with their own behavior.
When children act outside of our core values, (safe, kind and clean) teachers will remind or assist them in correcting their behavior through Logical Consequence practices. Their correction is specifically related to what action. If they spilled, they wipe it up. If they break something, they try to mend it or are aware and responsible to throw it away. If they hurt someone, they are taught how they can assist in that person’s care: hugs, Kleenex, an icepack on an injury are some common treatments of children by children.
Saying “no” to time outs
One thing you will not see at Caring Connection and is not a Logical Consequence is the use of “time outs” as a discipline technique. Not only are time outs very difficult to enforce, they take the power and learning away from the child and give it to the adult.
The combination of Logical Consequences and Enlightened Discipline is part of what makes Caring Connection Children’s Center so special. Children naturally understand and pick up the use of these words and values. It’s amazing how quickly they are able to identify and correct their own behavior. And there you have it. How it works. Ta Da!
(For more on this topic read “Calling Time Out on Time Outs” – resource guide.)